Are you ready to be a mom?
I still remember that there had been a topic about whether should raise child or not before on this forum. At that time, I was a new comer as well as just a reader. After a couple of months, I have been a membership of this family. I should talk something when I think it will do good for all friends of here. After reading Hope and Canuck about "how to be a good mom", I began to think this serious topic carefully.
Jenny, if this topic is submitted by you, I will be so delighted for your mature. It is denying to say, more and more young couples don't want to be parents. I don't want to criticize this attitude. I just narrate a facts. In fact, I had been one of them. I used not to like children before I had my own baby. I am afraid of bearing labor, carrying out responsibilities. I just hope to enjoy myself. I have to admit that I had been very selfish on this point. At the beginning, my husband agreed with me.Then he could not insist of it due to his parents' pressure. So the final was that we had our own baby after we married six years.
The new life's coming brought us unexpected surprise though we prepared for it so carefully .All friends and family thought me to be a completely new lady from a naive girl. I had been a spoiled, short-tempted girl before I was mom. With a new life coming, a kind of love outpouring from bottom of my heart on the new baby. They even including myself did not expect that I became so patient with the little kid. It was incredible whatsoever before that. But I did it naturally without any artificial. That may be so called mother nature in female characters. It was woken up by my dearly baby. I appreciated my kid so much. Bearing new life and raising it is a real great work. At least, she changed my life, my attitude to life a lot. Of course, I had to pay high price, such as you can not sleep as your own willing instead of following baby’s body clock. You had to wake up at midnight several times for the baby. You had to play less instead of working more. But what you did for kid is worth what the kid brought about you. That is a kind of agreeable happiness that sometime only can be felt but be described.
All in all, being a mom is the happiest thing in the world. It can not be instead of being bride, gaining outstanding achievement in career. From then on, I have begun to envy those couples who gave birth to twins or foreigners who can bear as many kids as they like. I like children no matter whom they belong to as long as they are children, special little babies. It sounds like a somewhat excessive. But that is my true feeling. If you are a girl, don’t miss the chance to be a happy mom.
The second question is “ Are you ready to be mom?’In my experience, before you raise new life, you’d better be ready on physical and psyche as well. Scientist has disclosed that the best ages for bearing baby is 22-30. So you just adjust your psyche to the best state during those years. How to adjust your psyche to a proper state seems to be another question. In fact, it is not hard. Just do what you want to do only with your husband or friends before you decided to have baby, such as traveling, get-together with your friends very often, even sleep late and get up late on weekend. Sum up, enjoy yourself everyday before you consider this serious question. Then when you feel somewhat tired of couple world, just bearing your baby and starting a fully new life.The following question is what “Hope” has told us how to be a good mom. Beyond those points, I would like to emphasize one view is showing your love to your kid and teach him/her how to love others. It is real most important for a mom to teach children how to love others as well as this world. If you want your kid to lead a happy life in future, teaching him/her how to love will let him/him to own a kind-hearted soul. If bringing a new life to the earth is a instinct of human, raising and teaching them should be responsibilities of mankind that is different with other animals. The meaning of the later is far meaningful than former one. If you were not ready to teach them to be a useful people who can love and do some good for this society, you’d better not bring them to this world. Otherwise society and you will be hurt by your less-educated offspring.
Don’t be scared with my words. I don’t want you to get scared by responsibilities to children. In fact, raising children will bring so much happiness to you. In addition, you will benefit from it. You have to behave yourself to be a good model in front of children. You have to understand your child what he/she is thinking. You will experience growing up with your child. That makes you still keep a childish heart as well as a mature soul. You may be pushed into a new step in your life. As for method to teach children, I assure you that you can find it in variety of publishing books as long as you are not illiterate. You don't need to worry about that at all.
In conclusion, before you consider to bear a new baby, just be ready for it on physical as well as psyche. After new life coming to the world, loving them with your affectionate love and teaching them how to love this world. You will be successful mom.
Come on, girls and young ladies, being female is happy thing, being mom is the pinnacle of feeling this kind of happy. Don’t miss it, or you will feel regret with it.
Dove
