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For Foxfairyben -- from Mary. WAKE UP! Avoid more danger
来源：洪恩论坛 Canuck's Comments
日期：2005-1-7
作者：maryk
阅读：1249 次
Dear Foxfairyben,
I'm becoming truly worried about you. By communicating with him you are keeping
this alive. At this rate you will soon be saying that you can't live without him. Then, when he's married you will allow yourself to romantically fall into despair. Next you will want to die. Will you then take the nextclassic "romantic" step and kill yourself? For God's sake -- WAKE UP!
Stop this pattern right now! Stop writing to him, talking to him, seeing him.
Give any pictures, gifts or mementos to your best friend to keep them away from
you while you are in this condition.
All the advice the dear friends here have thoughtfully given you is true. Every
bit of it. You are the only one who can protect yourself from this danger. This classic danger. You are a romantic, and you are letting yourself drift deeper into a truly dangerous situation without trying to do much about it. You are
not helpless. You are the captain of your own ship of life. Take control now and direct yourself, even though it is hard. You can do it! So do it.
Wake up. Think how flattering this whole thing is to *his ego*. Are you sure you can even believe the words you reported that he wrote to you about how hard it is for him, too? I think it is easy for him to say these things to you. Much
easier for him, than what you say to him is, for you. Stop immediately. Take
control of yourself.
You are a romantic. You need some balance that right now you don't have. You seem as though you need a dash of cold water in the face, so the speak, to wake you up. The only one who can give that to you, is yourself. Step back now from
this dark path.
This is hard for you because he is your first boyfriend, and because you are a romantic. When girls give their bodies and full affections to men before marriage this is what can happen. Chastity before marriage and fidelity within marriage for both man and woman is the surest way to a happy life, and a loving and long lasting marriage. Some girls find themselves in your position, and are also pregnant. Then things are much worse. Now *there's* something you can be thankful about.
Don't keep loving your suffering as though it kept you close to him. You are doing this to yourself now. He is not going to be there, so get used to that now
and make the break.
Read carefully the excellent wisdom that all the caring friends here have offered to you, and really absorb it. You don't reply as though you are even listening. You continue to say the same things over and over. I don't think you are really listening at all. WAKE UP! Nobody can care for you but yourself. Get yourself a little self pride and some backbone, and do what you need to do. Just stop any contact at all with him right now and forever and don't break that resolve.
Best wishes, Mary