Dear Dudu,
Not true. The truth is that real happiness comes from inside yourself. Job, lover, relationship all come from outside of yourself. If you attach your happiness to outside things and happenings, then you allow your happiness to be at the
mercy of others, and of circumstances. Refuse to let this happen to you.
Many around you wear masks of happiness and certainty so you are being fooled about how they may really feel inside. You think you are the only one. Lots of others are suffering as they learn to live life. You are not alone and you aren'
t peculiar.
From the early teens until about 21 all people are still developing new physical
areas in their brains. (A recent discovery.) There are many hormones at work.
This is a great cause of upset. It will pass. Life will become more stable again as it was when you were a younger child. It is important to get enough sleep
now. Give up worrying about romance and future jobs. Try to do well each day with what is in front of you. The time will come for you too for romance, and job. When the time is right and things are in place. Don't push the river of life. Leave this for now.
One who fastens their happiness to outside things is tossed around by others and
circumstances. Some people live their whole lives this way. Decide that you won't allow this to happen to you. You will relax a little and quietly begin to become a good and caring friend to yourself. You need to become your own best friend.
Here's a way. Talk to yourself inside as you would to a frightened little child
. Think wise, honest, reassuring words, loving words, to yourself. You would use calming words and not words to scare her. For instance, "I'm your friend. I
know you're scared. Just do what you can for now. You will find your way. Other people have. Other people do. You will, too. Don't give up. Try to flow with
life. Many things go well when we flow. They will for me, too." That's how to
talk to yourself.
Dear Dudu, come again.
With affection, Mary