Dear Feier,
Do you still remember me? I hope you do! As you are always in my mind! I think
I have to say sorry that I am coming so late to say hello to you and to welcome
your back to our forum and back to your home after one year stay in Australia!
To tell the truth, I keep the habit of visiting our forum frequently though I was not able to leave my words here for quite a while. Due to the very limited spare time, mainly, I tried to read most root articles, So in general, I know what is going on with our forum and noted that you already returned! I was very delighted and sort of relieved when seeing your first article posted here some months ago after a long time of your absence! Also, because I knew you are safe and
well I did not give any response to your articles. But just now when reading one
of your replies to Mary and David, I found it was indeed my fault for not having any words to you as one of your old and good friends on this forum! Then I felt an urge to write a letter to you now. Do you know that we were quite worried
about you and missed you when you suddenly disappeared from our forum without a
message last time? I remember one of your friends ever came here and posted a message for asking for your information. Azure and Mary and I all replied to your
friend but sadly we also did not have any your updated news at that time. If you have time, you can check out that post in the history of this forum, I think.
Dear Feier, Do you know I also ever sent several email and forwarded some files
to your yahoo mailbox when I could not see you on the forum? I still wonder if
you got them or not so far? But now, you came back safely and you are already being with us again on the forum! All worries have gone!
I am sorry that you are feeling depressed when seeing few replies to your article <<A lost melody of piano returns>>! Frankly, I was greatly impressed
by the great character of your true friend, who overcome one of the most difficult things in the world-- walked out of the big shade and face things positively!
she is such a strong angel! We have to admit that few people can act like whatshe did. She is a great example for those people who are in difficulty or in disease should learn from.
As per my own experiences, Usually, people turn to be quite weak when they are in difficulty or in disease, maybe this is one of the weaknesses of human nature.
With time goes by, I understand this more and more. An instance happened here lately can reveal this fully. One of my best friends, who ever was my colleague,
was examined having a tumor with the size over 5cm in diameter in her womb in early July! She did badly suffer from the waist pain in the past half a year. Also she did many times examinations in several hospitals in our city before. But
what a sad truth was that it was until the last time the actual reason caused the waist pain could be discovered! And owing to the big size of the tumor, she was requested to take operation to cut off the tumor immediately. I felt both happy and sad for her after hearing the result of the examination from her on the phone. I was happy that finally the reason was known now and could find way to get
rid of it and then she would not suffer the waist pain any more in the future.
I was sad with a question in mind why it took so long a time to detect such a tumor? The tumor was in the size over 5cm already, can you imagine how long it has
been grown and stayed in her womb? If only the tumor could be discovered earlier, she should not have suffered from it for such a long time! If only the tumor
could be discovered earlier, the result now could not be so worse—she may no need to have to take operation! I felt angry and heartbroken in my inner heart at
that moment! What caused the waist pain? Didn’t the doctors have some estimates
for the possible reasons and got a thorough check for her as per their knowledge and practical experiences? I could not bear that at all with such a result! She took the operation in the next day according to the doctor. It needed to inject the anaesthetic in her whole body before the operation, so it took at least six hours for her to awake from the unconsciousness after the operation. When I rushed to see her after my work in the evening. Her face was so pale with her eyes closed she was lying on the bed, her husband standing at the bed massaging her
right arm gently, all her brothers and sisters sat or stood in the room. With only one glance at her, my tears poured out out of my control immediately, I even
hardly answer the greetings from her sister and her mother-in law. I ran out of
the room and stood in the hallway trying to calm myself down. My heart was so heavy and I felt so sorrowful at that moment! I could not believe that was my dear and kind friend and could not help weeping on the way home one hour later. Even up till now I still could not really understand why I reacted like that as normally I am quite calm and strong and with clear mind when facing problems in my
life . Was I too scared at seeing her being so sick and weak?! I came to realize that we human beings are so weak facing the disease!!! I went to see her every
evening after work during her stays at hospital. I found that my mood was badly
affected by her sudden examined disease. I even felt no taste for food and did
not want to speak those days. Fortunately, her condition became better and better. My mood turns to be a bit better accordingly. Now she is back home from hospital but still feel sort of depression and sleeplessness from time to time after
knowing the fact that her disease has the possibility to be recurred at any time
during the rest of her life! I was shocked again at this. She is still so young
and will have to continue worrying about it. I know at this period, she not only suffer from the physical pain , but also suffer greatly from the mental stress. Besides the medication, I think the mental medicine is another important thing for her. I tried to cheer her up by my encouraging words whenever I talked with her on the phone. Telling her to read some easy books to distract the attention, the focusing on the negative sides of the disease, to avoid thinking and worrying too much! I expect that my friend will recover soon and can face life with
an easy and light heart.
Dear Feier, I understand your bad feelings towards that patient who requested you to make a fake document for her. Your attitude is definitely right. Every honest person would refuse her request! But needless to be too frustrated with such
cases. You may feel extremely angry at that moment. But we should learn to see
it calmly later and try to get lessons from the past experiences. Sometimes, failures and setbacks in life can teach us much more than an smooth life could offer us. Stick to your own standards and you will feel your progress during the process of your growing up. David is quite right, age matters a lot. In different
stages, our reaction to the same thing varies. What I am going to tell you is that you no need to be so upset and depressed whatever you might meet in your daily life! The world is big and it contains all kinds of people. We cannot expect everyone will think or behave the same as we do. There are too many different standards in people’s mind. We might meet the type of people we dislike at work or in our life. What we should do is to learn to work and live wisely and happily
. You can try to communicate with your parents and your friends more, to speak out your feelings, it will help you to release. You can also come here more to share your feelings no matter good or bad. In communicating with people, you may
find help or get wisdom from others. It is not good to always live in one’s own
small world.
Dear Feier sister, the letter seems too lengthy and boring. I did not realize that I wrote such long at one burst. But still feel there are too many words in mind that I cannot express well. I trust you will be a fine doctor and you will be
appreciated by your patients as you are such a sincere, kind and sensitive good
girl! Be brave and be strong! Be good and be positive! What is more? Be WISE and HAPPY!
Best wishes to you and your dear parents!
Your truly, Sally
