I’m a mother with an eight years old daughter, now I’d like to tell you some experiences in my family, I believe that most families with little kids in China should have similar experiences with me.
My parents had been helping me take care of my daughter since the baby was born. At the beginning of last year, my husband and I had the idea of looking for
a nurse both taking care of my baby and doing daily housework for us, as my parent's bodies were not as good as before, it was time to release them and we all
hoped to live separately to give more freedom to each other in the future. Then
via a classmate's recommendation, I got a nurse from one homemaking company, and
signed a contract with the company, the duration is half a year, at that time the price for the nurse's working is 450RMB Yuan per month, I think it's reasonable and worth it. The nurse was a 18 years old girl, who had a completed junior high school and one year technical secondary school educational experiences. In general, she was smart and learned new fast and had a good memory. Her daily housework is washing clothes, cleaning all rooms, buying food, picking up/sending my
baby from/to school and cooking and so on. Labor works cost lower in China. I hated doing housework then and was not good at cooking, I thought that I can take
it easy and do anything we would like to do at anytime forever as long as I had
a nurse, but over time, a series of problems came out.
First, salary for a nurse was sky rocketing in Beijing, when I signed the third contract with the homemaking company this August, I was told that I would had to pay 800RMB per month, of course, the nurse cannot get as much as I paid , the company took about 10% as overhead expenses.
Second, my daughter began to have lunch at school in this new term so that the nurse had more spare time, but the nurse was bored to do such work, she became more and more careless, she lost the mobile phone and the watch I lent her, most housework she's done was not perfect, I was getting more and more disatisfied
with her performances, sometimes I thought I would have them done during I was
telling her something.
Third, the most important, gradually, my husband and I realized that it's not good for a child with a nurse on the neck of always, she always order the nurse to do something she now can do in her age, imitating her daddy and I, it became harder for the nurse to manage her as well, she was becoming more and more unruly. We should have her more independent instead of as a dependent, as well as
educate her by ourselves.
Fourth, since no housework to do, my husband and I had got used to sitting at sofa to watch TV after supper, sometimes doing nothing is boring, why do we are looking on doing housework as a form of exercising so as to save a lot of money?
Finally I made the decision to quit the nurse, I would have the mother of one classmate of my daughter pick up her after school, I would pay her 10 RMB Yuan
per day, that's much more cheaper!
Everything will restart next week, my husband and I have divided housework,
it would be tired both psychologically and physically if burden all housework on
single person, I will tell you how are we going in the future. Please pay attention to my new posts!
Thanks!
Lear
I believe there would be errors in grammar, please correct them for me if you find, thank you very much!
