Last night, while I was reading , the figure 1,000,000 hitting the headlines in
the local press lured my attention . It is said that every year over 1,000,000
people across the world die by suicide, unfortunately , there are more than 10
million people who are suicide attempts each year.
After finishing the article, I fell silent; this article made me recall a story which I read two years ago, the scenes were still vividly in my mind.
A girl was calling her Dad with great care “ how's my score”, because of being attending a parent-teacher association , the phonecall is not available at the
time . Her father just said “I’ll tell you back home” ，then，he turned off
his mobilephone to continue focusing on teacher’s instructions. He can hardly
imagine it was the last time that he heard his daughter's voice, So ,why did his pretty and lovely girl commit suicide ending her life? In all her memory, she
always took the first place of the class, there is no second in her dictionary
,even once, never. When she phoned to her Dad, she deduced a conclusion from her Dad 's words and mood that she definitely not, succeeded in the final examination, but the fact is that she is the NO.1 again in her class.
This is really a brokenhearted story. The passing of the little girl made me depressible , and I even cannot calm down for a few days , what a nice girl ! I can imagine the heartrending father will be always self-condemned that if only he
had done something carefully, the suicide could have been prevented. But there is no regretting medicine in this world . we can not simply blame it's father's
fault or daughter's, I suppose it's a issue of education children that we China
's education has paid too much attention to the examination score rather than have sound health and a good personality. Although suicide is relatively rare among children, the rate of suicide attempts and suicide deaths increases tremendously during adolescence. Suicide is the third-leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-olds, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), surpassed only by accidents and homicide. Therefore, children's problems are the most important and hardest nut to crack for our authorities ,schools and parents as well .
In China , children are said to be “flowers of our Motherland”. In our country
, children are taking very good care of . Especially, the “one child per family”policy have been practiced all over the country for years. The kids are likely tending to be the centre of the family.
On the one hand , trongly ambitious expectations of their kids, Parents firmly believe that only hard work can earn a bright future for their kids. They also believe that only those who study hard under much study load can get rewarded by finding an ideal job in the cut-throat competition nowadays . So this theory lead
that, everyday their kids rush to school with heavier and heavier bags and return home with endless homework. Sometimes they even have to burn the midnight oil
. Finally, the heavy study load has seriously affected their physical and psychological health. Occasionllly it even can lead to the occurrence of tragedies like the above mentioned.
On the other hand, parents try to satisfy every demand of their spoiled kids, thus truning them into “flowers in the nursery ” that cannot bear any hardship or difficulty. They get accustomed to being surrounded like “Sun”or “ little emperor ”by their parents ， whenver or wherever people pay no attention to what they are doing ， or when they have coflict with classmates getting no compromise from the other side， they sometimes can not bear the such big fall，thus may trigger tragedies.
A teen who is thinking about suicide may:
talk about suicide or death in general
talk about "going away"
talk about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty
pull away from friends or family
lose the desire to take part in favorite things or activities
have trouble concentrating or thinking clearly
experience changes in eating or sleeping habits
self-destructive behavior (drinking alcohol, taking drugs, or driving too fast,
for example)
So when you get the signs above, it means that your child is in an emergency situation. Then it's high time drastic action should be taken
First, communication is the best medicine to calm down the kids, through the talk , parents can find what kind of trouble
that seemed impossible for their kids to deal with or to get relief from really
bad thoughts or feelings. maybe they didn’t want to die as much as they wanted
to escape from what was going on. And at that particular moment dying seemed like the only way out.So parents sholud find the sticking point and pull your kids
out of the trouble.
second , if parents can not persuade their kids , they should seek help from professionals like psychologist,psychiatrist or your local mental health association or county medical society can also provide references.
third, you also can ask their closest friends to talk to them , as long as they
overcome their psychological barrier , everything is worth doing at that time
, after that , though suicide behavior may stop, their breaken-heart can never
be healed in certain time.
To adults suicide behavior, I have the different point of view. I look down upon
those who commit suicide , why? In my mind , committing suicide need great courage, you have the courage to die , why dot't you have the courage to live? why
don't you have the courage to sue the guys who offend you , to say some extreme
words, you have the courage to die , why don't you kill the person first and
then commit suicide, at least , you shouldn't let the bad guys who have ever hurt you seriously live happily and laugh at your recreance.
Ok, I really have no good mood to go on writing, these days the weather here is
very bad , the day before yesterday it snowed, yesterday, it rained, and today it is cloudy. Maybe my mood somehow has affected by the bad weather .
All my friends in the forum, I hope we all care our Family members, friends, teammates, neighbors ... ...
Value family ! value friend ! value life !
Affectionately, Georgewu
