Dear Nicolas,
What you read here about Daredevil's experiences made you afraid. I would like
to share some thoughts that I expect will reassure you.
You wrote: "thanks ,now i am a student .i think many things which you said above will be met when i walk into the society.what you said make me feel it is hard for us to live . there will be no naive smile ,no sincere friend ? how terrible it is! i am unbelievable."
Dear Nicolas, as you are still a student you will already be older and somewhat
more confident when you leave school and go out to work. You will certainly also be more capable by then. You will be shown how to do many of the thingsyou job requires. Take a few notes for yourself. Carry a pencil and little
notebook in your pocket at all times so that you can remember and not need to be
told or taught the same thing twice.
When you see other people acting confident when they first try something, remember that many people are nervous underneath, but they hide their fearwith care. You don't need to show everything you feel, either. It is
good to show enough trying to do well so the person teaching you feels willing.
Show appreciation to them for their help with a few words, and the friendly look on your face.
Remember, "you can never step into the same stream twice." The people you will
meet when you go out will not be the people Daredevil met. Tomorrow Daredevil will find a new stream, too. She may step into it in a slightly different way now that she is beginning to understand who around her is sincere and honest, and
whom she must remember is thinking of themselves, and may be jealous or being careful of her, or even trying to undercut her so that she won't do a better job than they do and get ahead of them. These things exist, of course.
I expect you have already met jealous people and selfish people and so on in your life. You avoid them and watch your back! You know that.
Already Daredevil has learned and done all those things that were her "firsts",
so she knows now much more than she did before. She has added to her on-the-job
education. Now she is more employable. :-) Soon she'll be the"expert" and some day soon may be asked to show another newly graduated person "the ropes." (That means, how things are done correctly in that business.)
When you go out into society you can begin to make your own little village around you. Learn the area around about where you live and work, and the people who
are always there. Begin to find out who is friendly and helpful. Go especially
to those people for service in a store or restaurant, or for any help at work.
Smile at people. Be pleasant. At work stay neutral if you hear any gossip or
remarks about others. Don't join any cliques.
When you learn the name of a person write it in your little notebook, and begin
to remember to greet them by name, especially restaurant people, store clerks, and so on. This will help them to begin to remember you. Soon your village of comfort will grow. Don't worry about whether a person the first time or so returns your greeting or smile. They may be too surprised to do so. Later, those
who have good hearts (and good memories) will remember and try to return your greeting or smile better.
Of course you should always think about whose acquaintance you cultivate, because you are young and somewhat inexperienced with the world yet. The people who are always there simply working in your area are usually alright for simple pleasantries and business. Don't go much beyond that. It will begin to make you feel
at home in your new area.
The same things go for relating to people where you work. Always be the same kind of person. Don't one day be grouchy, and the next friendly. People are most
comfortable working with a person with dependable moods. I think this is enough to help you to get started now.
Get into the habit of being these ways outlined above to test them and get used
to them before you leave school. Start small if this makes you feel timid, but
stick to it. Remember, "practise makes perfect!" even in this way of making your own village in a strange and very large city or company.
You'll do fine. Try it and see. :-) Warmly, Mary
