Love shalt not die
>>Quite often "Marriage ,the graveyard of love" is overheard by me. Every time, I will probably doubt "why". >>As an unmarried person, I still like dreaming as if I were a little girl, and I don't think marriage must be the end of love. >>Yes,occasionaly I could see how happy and darling newlyweds are. I could also see how terrible and heartbroken those partners are when they are quarreling and some even involving in fights after they have been married several years and some maybe only after a very short time for diverse reasons.Doubtlessly,again and again if this instance happens, surely love will fade little by little and at last disappear between the very two partners and it will aslo lead the marriage to an end. >>Personally, I think all kinds of doubts, jealousy for no reasons, endless nagging and so on must be the biggest disaster to the marriage, and these factors probably will endanger the love deadly though it maybe will not end the marriage so soon. We may learn big and painful lessons from those celebrities in the history, such as Napoleon,a great man in the world, who's ever felt happy for having been married with a beauty, and soon felt sorry and bored with his wife , the Queen ,who's nagging and complaing everything without sake, this kind of character clearly couldn't match her honourable identity very well,which also directly led Napoleon to look out for comfort.In this case, don't mention there will be any love existing, even the marriage itself has been already something existing in name only. Whoever could seek any happiness in such a marriage? >>There're also two other similar cases ,which are well-known to us all. One is relating to Lincoln who's one of America's presidents,even such a great man has ever suffered from his nagging wife, her rattle probably has affected his attitude towards their marriage, though they both held together till death did they part, I don't think the love has really played its role in it, if there's really any reasons, maybe just the responsiblity to marriage.It's really like a nightmare when people have to endure something they don't like to accept,I think rattle should be a kind of tough torture in one's spirits which will even drive people mad in some degrees.Another case is that Tolstoy who's a great novelist of Russia's, his biggest regret was that he has married a lady who's nagging ,but it's been already too late when his wife woke up and began to repent of her faults and hoped to have his forgiveness after they have separated from each other for quite long time. And at last when their whole family caught the news that Tolstoy was dead, even kids of them, complained it's their MOTHER who's the KILLER of their beloved FATHER.Well, know what the will of the great novelist was at last moment? Anyway I felt shocked when I read the book but then I felt it's reasonable since he had such a wife. Well, he said he would feel glad if his wife WOULD not appear before him any more. >>Truely,marriage is not equal to love,it will include many other things small or big which people don't need to take care of too much when they are in love.If people couldn't keep these things wellhandled, people will wear out their patience in marriage, and they will find no more passion in themselves as they have had before. >>Love needs expression, care , waiting, and tolerance. I think in a long lasting marriage,the tolerance should be the most important factor if people wanna keep their love as fresh and living as the very beginning it goes. Love also needs mutual respect and understanding especially after people are wedded.Though both partners come together by contract, that doesn't mean they couldn't have any privacy as they have had before. They are still two individuals , they should have a big enough individual and free space to let their blue mood and pressure loose now and then alone but without any interference from the other partner.It's quite good if a couple could support each other as they were friends, in this way, complaining will be taken place by careful listening, and those possible quarrels will be avoided fully,then love will be lasting a wholelife even people get married.
>>Am I right to display my interpretation about the relationship between marriage and love? >>Along the time I will pray not only for my future, but also for many other people in this world.
Never seek to tell thy loveLove never that told could be
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