Dear friends,
I feel very bad lately for the college having expelled the two students, a couple of lover, from college for they making sex, which was severely banned by the college. In my eyes, it is absolutely wrong and unfair to treat campus-lovers with such an unreasonable policy. The policy is stupid and absurd as well as irresponsible.
Things happened in last week. As they said, it was class time, a superviser in No 4 dorm building checked up one male-students'dorm to see if some students were in but not go to class. When the superviser opened the door with key, she found the lovers on bed with nothing wearing. She suddenly entering must scared the lovers. As they said, the girl was extremely frightened, and afraid of being punished by the college as well as people knowing the affair, she would be no face. She kneeled down to the superviser, begging and weeping, expected the superviser not reporting it to the college and others. But the superviser seemed hard-hearted. The superviser is a middle age woman and laid off from her factory one year ago, via friend's help, she got the temporary position as a dorm superviser with low pay in the college. Probabley the superviser feared to lose her job in the college if she coverd the affair. Then she reported it to the college and this affair immediately became an express and hot news on the campus soon.
The young and pitiful lovers must be shamed for the affair be known by her many classmates and teachers. You know, as our Chinese custom, especially in northwest of China, where old-fashioned idea is still strong, nothing will make you lose more face than your affair uncoverd. As the lovers were shamed and feared how they would be punshied. The college seemed be extremely angried to the lovers for the affair. They thought it was immoral and has making bad effect in the college college, they should be severe punished for the behavior. So they expelled the lovers from the college according to some regulation stipulated by the college. That means they lost their study in the college. What a terrible punish !
It is said, last friday, the two students left college for their home. The college sent them to home with sending the document about the decision of punition to their parents. I cannot imagin what feeling the two students had, especially the poor girl. They were freshman, and just begining their college life, which we often think is the most important piece of one's life, but they quickly lost it for a simple reason, but which was nothing in western countries. They lost their study, and be terribly shamed. They how to face their parents, and whether they have courage to face their future life, and what they can do after having lost college study. And what bad feeling of their sad families, especially their broken-hearted parents have. I donnot dare to imagine. It is too terrible for me to imagine.
I hate the college making such punish, and hate they donnot care students, and just know punish, punish and punish. It seems in their mind, punish is the only way to make students peaceable and obedient. They completely donn't care students'feeling and their nature. They roughly do their work and teaching students with unscientific way. I still rememberd at the beginning of my work in the college. That year, the college had a regulation that students were not permitted to make boyfriends or girlfriends. But, there were some still falled into love. So for stopping them, sometimes, in evening and night, some teachers who were in charege of students, searched lovers on the sportsground and someplace with flashlight. It was such a stupid action and regulation not permitting students love. Not permitting students love just like not permitting plant bloom, you cann't stop it bloom, it is nature.
Today, I complained the college having maken such a bad punished for the students to a teacher, he is an old teacher with a good reputation in teaching, he is also a very kind old man. But his reply makes me surprise, he thought the lovers should be punished like that, if the college didn't punish them severely, there will be more and more lovers follow them. I was astonished to hear such answer from a kind man. And this afternoon, I went to a drugstore to buy some medicine. The drugstore is near the college. I had a little talk with the owner of the drugstore. When I asked how about his business in the SARS time. His answer also surprised me a lot. He told me, because the college closed students in, not permitting students going out, so his business slumped, especially no students coming to buy condom and prophylactic, which is his biggest profit. I was surprised to hear what he said there were many students in the college to his store to buy condom and prophylactic. What he said made me think a lot. It is easy to see lovers on the campus, in catering hall, road and classroom. you can see many students lovers. They looks so happy and their life because love seems more colourful, maybe they will think they are the happiest people in the world because love. But what I worry about is if another day, another couple of lovers will be expelled from the college because of sex. It seems so easy for them to enter that forbidden zone.
I do think it is the time for the college to change their working way on students. Scientifc guide is better ten times than a punish way.
Hope to read your idea on the topic. If the students should be punished like that?
Best wishes
Standly
