Life needs refreshment
If you are married, do you sometimes feel bored about marriage and life? I used to be like this in the past two years, but my life got refreshment later.
Married couples always need a baby. While indulging the happiness of baby birth, I felt life became more and more boring. I was not the white-collar girl, but a baby’s mother, or a full -time baby-sitter. No time left for me to do the things I liked: the wonderful songs of my favorite songs were ignored, the English books failed in waiting for my reading, and the ancient Chinese verses were almost forgot. What I had to do was to look after my new-born baby as carefully as possible. As a mummy, I should be a professional baby nurse as well as a unprofessional paediatrist. Suckle him if he was hungry ,and diagnose a disease by myself before going to see a doctor if he was uneasy. In a word, I am not myself, but a perfect servant of my son. Do you think marriage at this time is boring or interesting?
During this period, what was my husband doing? He seemed a little more independent than me, but helped me little in baby caring,only provided economic assistant. He could do as he wished just like before. So unfair! I felt more and bored about life and marriage.
My baby was growing up day by day. When the day arrived finally that he could go to children school, I felt so excited. I was set free and then I got an office job .Working refreshed me and I became myself again! I could surf in web and read all the books needed .What’s more, I got new colleagues and friends with whom I can exchange ideas. Life became more active than before.
Refreshment was taking place. There was a young colleague I wanted to mention here. He was 9 years younger than I .His playful words and articles recalled my inspiration for fun and jokes, and the lexical bank of the ancient Chinese literature. I began to write articles again. He was so kind and helpful that he taught me much in computer and web. You know, I have not used computer and web for so long a time since I had a baby. To be frank, I really liked him much, and I almost fell in“ love”with him last year! In fact ,I was a traditional lady. I cannot accept that a married lady would “fall in love “ with another guy. In my heart, I have never doubted that I love my husband. He is the only one of mine.
The affections for him made me so confused at that time! Could someone love two men (women) at the same time? To get the keys to the question, I turned to my web friends. Some friends told me that one loves two was normal, but only one could you hold or own. And if you cannot bear it, just give one up. Following the advice, I have tried to forget him ,but I failed, for his babylike smile was so much like my son's. On the other hand, sometimes I did not think it was a kind oflove. Have you heard of a word, "the fourth affection"? We are ordinary friendsthough I got a special affection for him. We exchanged articles and ideas ,shared fun and jokes ,and enjoyed something we all liked. We had more to say to eachother than to other colleagues perhaps, just so so. Nothing happened overstepping friendship. He understood my feeling, but seldom showed any affections for me directly. Time flied, we had to keep the friendship in web after he left my company soon. While liking my colleagues, I felt my love for my husband was activated .My husband was my college classmate, who worked in another city .we love each other. Ithought ,it was baby and unemployment of mine that made life so dull in those days. My husband and my friend are men I like ,but only my husband is the man who loves me most and I love most .He is the first man who shares my body and soul, and he will be the last one I think. Comparing the two kind men, the advantages of my husband was found once again, and the disadvantages of my friend appeared.I believed further that no perfect man(person )in this world .Only suitable life partner ,no perfect one for you! I resumed my passion for my marriage and lovereally!!
Time went by, the affection for my friend was cooled down later. Friends and husband are all needed. We are still good friends .Friendship lasts long, and friendship refreshes love, do you believe ?I love my husband and son, while liking myfriends. I work , study and I, like writing these effective words here to show my deep love for life.
