A great philosopher once said that all women want in her life are men, love and sense of security. I take it for granted that sense of security is actually the fundamental thing that women seek for in her entire life.
Nobody can deny the fact that it’s still a man-dominated society today, even though the social status of women has been greatly improved. Sex-discrimination is here and there in employment; therefore saying such as “Doing good job is inferior to marrying Mr. Right” seems to be prevailing. Many female graduates confess that what they want most is Mr. Right with amazing background that she can completely rely on, especially after they have experienced unfair treatment in the job-hunting. To a large extent, it always seems to be man’s major responsibility to make a successful career and therefore offering his family with strong economic or psychological support. By comparison, women’s major duty is to take good care of the whole family rather than earning the bread, though they also go out to work. It’s said that even for these successful professional women, after so many years of struggle on her own, she may occasionally suffer from loneliness or lack of security, resulting in the desire for men. I’ve heard of so many stories about this aspect. What struck me most was the following one. Once in a dark stormy day, it rained dogs and cats outside, a woman went back home after work to take a shower in her bathroom as usual. Suddenly, a bat came to her sight, and she couldn’t help screaming and ran away at once. In the following hours, he dared not go to the bathroom at all, for fear that terrible creature would still over there. Finally she took some hot water and threw it at the bat crazily. The “evil creature” finally flew away; but she felt so exhausted that she leaned against the door and couldn’t help crying the rest of that night. Recalling this terrible night, she said at that very moment she was in such great panic that it first occurred to her that if only there had been the man by her side, as she could turn to him for help. I used to admire these successful professional women so much, as I thought they were fearless, but this story really changed my idea a little bit. I tended to understand why women need men in her life, as men actually means the mountains that provide most women protection and sense of security.
Besides men, love can also offer women sense of security. In Bible, the first woman was actually the robin of the first man; her existence makes it possible for the everlasting topic for the human being, that is, love. As a matter of fact, nobody can really speak out what is love, but it’s assumed as one of the most essential elements in one’s life, as the saying goes life without love is not complete. Such kind of emotion is quite different from kinship or friendship; it’s even more intricate, reasonless, and changeable. Some say it’s sort of illness, it starts to work at certain age when people around you all fall into love, but you are still suffering from endless isolation or loneliness. There was a vivid saying by a girl who wanted to put an end to her single life, she just compared her life to a mirror with smooth surface but without any center of resistance, and then for her, love functions as that strong support for the mirror. It’s not hard to imagine the situation; love is very much the fresh air, supplying vigor and energy for your routine life, and the key is with the strong support love, you are likely to feel warmer and safer than ever.
Men, love, these two factors can surely make women feel secured, but not always. Sometimes, even woman acquire both of them, their sensitive nerves start to work. They begin to think that it’s too good to be true and how long will it last. As a result, they couldn’t help worrying about the possible loss of them, in such case, they won’t feel secured at all or their previous sense of security is right now missing.
I do believe that sense of security is the greatest dream of all women, and to my understanding, the effective way to manage it is to be always independent. We may not find the right man we truly love in all our life, or even we get it, we may lose him later, and hence, to keep independent seems to be even more important. We live in this world; we must always love and take good care of ourselves, even we fail from failure of love, we should dry up the tears, and don’t anticipate that guy to go back to you, for sense of security is not merely made by him, but you can certainly regain or create it all by yourself. If we women always keep a positive attitude to all the things around us, and keep independent economically and psychologically, we won’t take love and men as everything, we can live our own life, and meanwhile accept all the happiness and suffering happening to us with wisdom and calm.
