I heard a story days ago. A granddaughter died quite young. Her grandmother loved her very much. But people around were so surprised to find that there was no sign of sadness on the grandmother's face. One day, one of the neighbours couldn't help asking the old woman, "why aren't you sad?" The old woman said,"I am so old now, and every hour may be the last hour in my life. I prefer to recollect the happy time with her rather than crying for her in this hour." According to the theories of Buddhism, one will be suffered all his/her life. It is different kinds of desires that causes this. If you don't be suffered, you must eliminate all the desires. It's reasonable, but I don't completely agree with it. I think what we need to do is not eliminating but enjoying all kinds of desires. Then what is enjoying? I personally think it means to accept the fact optimisticly. We always have desires to own something, of course it is impossible for us to get all of them. I think it is lucky and it's also our honour that we can find things we love. It's another kind of gaining. So we needn't eliminate all the desires. But on the other hand, we mustn't be controlled by the desires. That is enjoying. I'm sure that grandmother has the desire to live happily with her granddaughter again. Most people would be very sad and even cried for days in such a circumstance. What's the use of it? Nothing! What's worse, quite a few people commit crimes because various kinds of desires. I don't wanna mention about them here. Many friends talked about their love affairs. They feel sad that they can't marry their sweetheart, or who he/she loves doesn't love him/her. They are blue,and thinking about that all day.They have no interest to do anything else. Why? They got lost in their desires, they can't enjoy the desires. What is love? Love means to give rather than to receive, and of course not to possess at all. It happens quite often that a boy or a girl falls in love with a people who he/she shouldn't love. If he/she can enjoy the desire, though he/she can't get what he/she want, he/she can still enjoy the friendship, the happy time, his/her care, and evey the love in the heart. Just like a cup of coffee, though bitter, fragrant it is. When I am alone, I like to recall my childhood in Xinjiang, my college life or some other things happened before. When I thought of my old friends who I haven't connected with for years, when I thought of the seperating, I can't help feeling say, and even feel like crying. How I wish I chould live that kind of life again! At that moment, I never tried to stop myself from thinking of it. I would play a sad piece of music from CDs and let tears break out and run down my face. I found it another kind of beauty and I would feel much more relaxed. Isn't that better than try to regain what you can't own again? Enjoying the desires is a kind of life attitude. It seems to be too passive, but I think it IS the most active. The post'd better be finished here now. But, what more I want to say is, for some certain reason, I didn't express what I want to say directly. I hope all the friends can understand.Leslie