Dear Forum friends!
Too bad nobody commented on Canuck's answer directed to many of you, under the root article "And Then He Kissed Her". This is a very current topic. Many of you are in college. Many of you see girls that you admire. No doubt someof these girls will be kissed by other boys.
I think one answer to this problem is this. When you are in college or university, pursuing your studies, then this is your primary goal. You're reallynot prepared to get married at that stage. So do not pursue girls at the same time.
You say that I am unrealistic? Maybe yes, and maybe no. It depends on what you want out of life. If you think, that you need a relationship with a female rightnow, then do not be surprised that your study efforts will be insufficient. I always believed that it is dishonest to form a relationship that could not resultin a marriage. You know from other article here that I am blessed with a wonderful and lasting marriage.
When I was still in Germany in college, and about 19 years old, I met nice girlsand liked some of them. But my primary goal was to immigrate. Marriage was not possible. Therefore I did not pursue them. Let others kiss them. My resolve was strong. I remember once I took a girl out to a movie. Just to practice how one should act, and with very gentlemanly behaviour. I was surprised that after the movie ended her boyfriend appeared and took her home. Did I feel cheated? No, just a little surprised!
Later, on the ship coming to Canada there was a family with a lovely young daughter. A real beauty. I managed to sit at the same table with the family and showed courtesy to them and the girl. Later I kept in touch for a little while. The parents liked me, but my realtionship with the girl was one of "Platonic Love". Later I noticed something in her behaviour that I did not like. I was also still not ready to marry anyone, because I was still working to establish myself. So I dropped that relationship. Then later I met my future wife, and I then pursued her.
So what am I telling you? Make up your mind, what it is you need at this stage of your life and then go after it. Probably study first, job next and then kisses and love. This will save you much heartache caused by having a relationship, then breaking up, and trying all over again. Do not believe everything you see and hear in films and the media. Real life is not like that.
Well, I wish you all well. And may Cupid be good to you.Best wishes, Uncle Ben
