One of my friends separated from his girl recently.He is very very sad for it.Aftrer he drink much wines he can't help crying:"why do she left me?what wrong do i do to her on earth?"And recently,he said often to me:"I love her genuinely!I can't live without her!..." I can understand him very much because i have a same feeling like him.Although i don't know why she left him but i know she has not any longer to love him.Otherwise she will not left him usually.But what should you do next if you are in this position?I have someidea as follows: On one hand,if you can't left her or him genuinely or you can't live without her or him,that is meaning that you have a very very strong feeling to fuss her or him,you should fuss her or him all the same.I think since you have a strong feeling to fuss her or him you must have not fear any difficulty.And in the end you must have succeed in it. If you say,she or he doesn't give you any chance,this will prove that you don't love her or him genuingly. On the other hand,if you love her or him genuinely but she or he can't go back to your face,that is meaning that you think you can't get she or her and you have not enough confidence to do it,you should quit it.If you will not quit it,you must have suffer from many many hurt because of it.It is boomerang.No one can help you genuinely.So under this condition you must do so : First,you don't try forgeting it because you can't forget it.It is absolutely.she or he is a beauty without any shortcoming in your heart by your aesthetic idea(审美观)。so you can't accept any other one. Second,you should know there are many many boys and girls in this world.you may contact her or him actively.Maybe,after something you will find that she or he now is better than her or him before. The last,if you don't do it well in my method above you have to change your aesthetic idea.Of course,it is slowly but you can change it.for example,You like football very much.Maybe,when you learn play basketball you will feel basketball is better than football to you. This is my idea about it.If you have different idea please tell me and we can comunicate it freely. Besides,i think if you are in this position you should keep a good temper to it any time.You must make you confident to it.You should know there must have been your other hafe in your life who is appropriate for you in the world.And when you meet this thing you should comunicate it with your good friends.This wiil make you comfortable and clear about it. I hope you can deal with this thing successfully! Believe yourself,you must have do it very well!