Money Ranks First when Choosing A Mate?
According to one of the recent report in China Youth, “Having a house ” has
become the first consideration for nine tenth of the young women when choosing
a mate, in a survey conducted in the city of Qingdao. The soaring price of real
estate is first factor to be blamed, according to the correspondent.
Is it?
This has brought one of my roomate’s saying to me again. In a chitchat she has predicted rather confidently that the trend of marriage in China will undergo
the most profound changes in decades. People, especially young women, will not
list factors like charater or education as the most important to be taken into account as their parents did. But rather, factors like whether the man owns a house, and further, a car will become the core of the charm a man can ever own. One
of the direct result of this is the widening age gap between the husband and the wife. Postgraduate students like us are not likely to own a house of their own
in a few years after graduation. This is pure tragedy for male students. They are likely to lose their girlfriends because of this.
I did not quite take her words for serious that time. Everyone has her own choice. I do not think I will one day stand in her queue and abandon my boyfriend because of that. But the report has set me contemplating again.
What I am trying to say is not that marrying a wealthy older man should be criticised or denied. But when nine out of ten young ladies choose to rank that as
the first factor, regardless of other once-inevitable factors like good personality, problems can emerge. Though the times we are now in differs in many ways from the one of our parents, we cannot marry for money alone. Young men starting their career are faced not only the challenges of the unpredictable job market, but also from their once sweet heart: she has got a brand new idea, and is leaving him to stand at the side of a senior man who she hasn’t ever met before,
but who has big bucks in his hands. What a ironic picture it is!
Rising house price is not the sole Pandora to be blamed. Our state of mind is
. If people can marry for money and get happiness at the same time, I’d say this kind of happiness is doomed to fade with the passing of time, as everything is
in a dynamic state. Wealth can be no exception. And to be frank, I see very little chance for it to survive the test of time.
