i am not sure if it is interesting..but i think it is the source of why we hold
onto certain belief, which i dont think it is a very good belief to hold onto.
i dunno what lead to, or even why lead ur decision and planning in your life today. Nonetheless, i wish to share with u my here beneath discovery.
elderly has always lecture us since young,base on their experiences, that we have to be strong be independent from men since we are young because of their experience n because of the bitterness they have in life. hence, we have no faith in
man, nor relationship
however, i realise, despite their bitterness, despite their choice,this could only be our guidance,but not some choices one can force onto us. and i assure you,
we should have freedom to choose whether we wanna trust a man, trust a relationship
yes, i dont doubt we should be independent, to be on the safe side. but we should also be aware that, any relationship that is long lasting, is because, two thing or two person need each other
every relationship (be it business or personal) exist because there's a need in
the first place. should these needs be fulfilled, then only the relationship will last. if one party or the other is being over independent, there's no need for
the other party to exist, hence eventually become redundant.
relationship makes two parties grow, learning to live with give n take, learning
to tolerate and be tolerated..only then, only when we learn to need n be needed
, the relationship will be formed..and sustained.
i dont deny there are bitter relationships & experiences out there. hence we should choose partner wisely(be it business partner or for life). and one thing we
must also realise, things will normally turn out the way u want it to be (As long as effort within ur control).if we keep having the impression that relationship will not last, it is bound to fail, we are bound to get cheated, we are bound
to be heart broken, i can assure u, being human, base on this assumption, we are
bound to treat our partner coldly, hence turning him/ her away. hence relationship fail as need is not established nor is it fulfilled.
hence, conclusion being, sometimes, we should learn to be soft, learn to let ppl
take charge, yet knowing at back of mind what we want.
despite certain concepts are rooted deeply in our heart n mind, wisdom should guide u to choose, which path to follow, and which beliefs to be abandoned.
disclaimer:
this is initially a conversation between myself and a friend. i thought it could
be an article to be shared with all.