Dear Zlzzjc,
This is a reply to you, Zlzzjc, and it is also for all the other friends on this
forum. Zlzzjc replied under the post to BRIGHT that I wrote about exchanging ways to make new friends. Zlzzjc had some questions and I have answered them here. This is a very important topic friends, so please give it your best effort and let's see if we can help some lonely people here find relief! :-)
Zlzzjc and the rest of you: you are already a friend here on this forum. :-)
We reply to you as friends do. You are not a stranger to us at all, dear Zlzzjc
. :-) The more you write, the more we reply, the more others reply to you and
write the more we all know each other. After a time we miss you when you can't
be here. That's a sign of friends, isn't it! Rest assured that here you have friends.
However, people very much need to know how to make friends in a new city, or at
a new company. People also need to know how to make deep friendships, and also to have many friendly acquaintances. People need to feel that they belong, andbeing known and having friendly acquaintances who remember you is one way.
Some people find it easy to make friends. Others find it difficult. I would like forum people here to share advice with each other. Tell about how you have successfully made some new friend when you found yourself in a new place where you didn't know anyone. Examples of this would be when you had to go to a new city to live. When you went to university for the first time. When you are assigned a new dorm, or even got new room-mates. When you moved to a different part of a large city and were farther away from your previous friendly acquaintances what did you do to make yourself a comfortable niche area or a sort of "village"
within the city, in which to live. When you join a new company how do you work
on becoming accepted and liked. How do you find someone there to share with a bit? How do you manage to break in if everybody else
seems to know each other and they don't include you? Can this be changed, and
if so, how?
How do you find a table to sit at in a lunch room? Is it better to sit alone?
Is it better to ask if you may sit with others, and then just eat as they all talk together? Is there a way you might find somebody in your class to eat your lunch with in the lunch room next time? How will you find a person you will probably enjoy being with? Who has some things to tell us about these kinds of situations or any other kind where you overcame being a stranger who knew no one and
found someone or two or three with whom you could share lunch, interests, and so on.
Do you have any good ideas to share with all of us about this, Zlzzjc?
If this can be shared and taught, then many lives will be changed for the
better. :-) So come on now, share your positive and helpful experiences, dear friends.
Warmly, Mary
