Who can change the destiny?
“Love is not about romance, for it’s more about commitment. Neither of us is to blame in the final break-up, for we both have tried our best to keep the love
survive, and I have already done all the crazy things I could do…But bygones are after all bygones. Sometimes, we still need to confess that it’s all about destiny…”
-------Words from the Hero
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At first, both of them firmly believed that we were born with such strong personalities that they would overcome all the difficulties or obstacles to be together, but eventually, they still had to give up after coming to America…
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Once he was young, and he was quite satisfied with his well-paid job after graduation. Nevertheless, he still felt sort of incomplete in his life until he met her. At that time, she was still a college student, coming and going in his sight
as a beautiful butterfly, in the area where he lived nearly every day. Moreover
, she got a friend that he knew as well. Like all the other romance in the world
, they fell for each other. He told himself that she was exactly the missing part in his life, and she was born to make him complete as a being.
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He had never thought about going abroad before he got to know her. However, she
had been planning for it all the time. She took GRE and got the visa to study in
America. He started to make the decision to follow her. Despite the rejection from his beloved parents and friends, he quitted his admirable job in China, and
got through the harsh procedure for going to America. After he finished all his
application for an American university, she had already been studying there for
a year.
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On his journey to the continent of liberty, he kept thinking about how excited she could be after noting seeing each other for a “century”. However, to his great astonishment, the first words she said to him was that “Hey, you look different!” She went on: “I’m independent now, and I don’t need you so much!” He
was too shocked to reply in the next a few minutes, and he started to know that
it’s not him become different, but her.
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They lived together as if a real couple. Sometimes, they quarreled or even fought, for they were both too young to compromise a little bit. Moreover, life in America was so stressed with so many different problems. He gradually realized that there would be no way out in this new country if he went on study with his previous major as electronics. As a result, he chose to be transferred to another university in another city to study Computing, a relatively more promising major.
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She didn’t go with him. As what she declared earlier, she has been forced to be
a totally independent being in this country. She could live without him, though
she loved him as much as he did. They began to live as two separated beings, each with their own pursuit and individual life.
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She soon graduated and got her master degree. She tried to move to his city for
job-hunting. It’s much harder for a couple to rent a house rather than for a single person, so she chose to live in her friend’s house, which took him nearly
3 hours to drive.
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She was such a considerate, introvert and outstanding girl in his eyes as always
, but unfortunately, his parents didn’t like her. He had been trying hard, really very hard to make her accepted by his parents, but all his endeavors went to
fruitless. He was told that they would never accept her. He was such a traditional Chinese that he attaches so much importance to his beloved parents, so before
they went to register for the marriage, he suddenly found the excuse that he really wanted to have the wedding in America.
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She didn’t say anything special; but she might have already made her decision at that time. Once they were just one step to marriage, after that, she chose to
part. She wrote him an E-mail saying that he was not the one in her life, though
she still loved him. After that, she vanished all of a sudden from his sight.
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He was still in love with her, as crazy as he used to. Therefore, he tried to figure out her location by detecting the IP address. He didn’t hesitate to drive
from his city to the city where she was located. He drove for 20 hours without a
rest on the highways; for he just got one idea in his mind that he wanted her back. After one hour’s rest for refueling, he kept driving, on and on and on until he got to her city after two days.
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He looked for her everywhere in that city, but still failed to get her. He was hopeless and drove back to his own city. On the way back, he kept thinking that since he loved her so much, and could not do anything even crazier, he had to let
her go, and would never try to get her and disturb her.
Look at this unusual love story. It’s the destiny that had brought her in his life; it’s the destiny that had brought both of them to that entirely new country; it’s destiny that had made both of them change so dramatically, and it’s also the destiny that made them to break up eventually. Who can change the destiny
?
Joan wrote in 2005. 8.17.
after hearing the story of a friend
