I always view divorce as a crime to the Child(ren). It is totally the parents' responsiblity for any crisis of a family.
The parents shouldn't murder a young ,inocent and powerless life's happiness for seeking an adult's better life or extricating from an adult's crisis. You may deliver your riposte: doesn't the family violence torture the children more severely than the divorce? My answer is :no, if you have the sense of responsibility and choose to love.
My father started to get addicted to achol when he was at his 30s. Since then nearly everyday he drank and got drunk and messed the room up.Sometimes he beat my mother.I really had wanted to kill him when I grew strong enough.You can image how hard it was for my mother to raise three boys in late 70s and early 80s when China was still poverty stricken.For many times i had dreamed of the whole family commiting suicide together. I hate to recall those nighmares now. But it was my mother who shouldered this family and kept from breaking with her extrordinary painstaking effort. How could it be possible? She said then and she says now,"for my children." Things turned better as we three sons grew up,especially when i went to college.That must have pleased him.He continued to drink but drank less and had fewer and fewer times of getting drunk as years going.In his last ten years,he had treated my mother better and better. At the moment he was passing away,he held my mother's hand and said to her,"you are the best ." I was not in my hometown then as it happened too suddenly.My mother later told me that my father said loud at last ,"son...,son... ,son." and everybody at present believed that was calling me. I always feel very guilty for my absence.
My dear friends, how could I turn the hatred of killing him to loving him?
It was my mother's tolerance that made us not to hate but to love.Yes,my mother is great. Everybody who knows her says that and respects her. My true story proves that the pain of maintaining a family is worthy and deserving.I don't think Hollywood was totally blind when she decided to marry her husband. She knows well about the merits of him.Probably his curren problem is that he is not faring well with his job and resorts to the gambling as a sort of escapism. Hollywood, if you don't want to eacape too but want to overcome the crisis, stand up with your great painstaking effort to enourage your husband whom you once really loved and wanted him happy and to tolerant his ill temper which didn't stay in him before and shouldn't stay always. Never embarrase him with other peopleinvolved,especially the police.
Believe me, divorce is a crime.You will be punished,if you commite that.To love is the only answer for this.
