On Virginity

王朝英语沙龙·作者佚名  2007-01-10
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Chinese society has been placing a large amount of value of a bride's virginity

till the wedding day. Some argue this has a lot to do with the feudalism that has been ruling Chinese society for thousands of years, while some others advocate

women should be brave enough to break this by standing up to take pre-marital sex as males do, saying if all of the females do this, the reality will leave no

space for males to be pricky in issue relating virginity.

To me, this is a complex issue.I won't simply nod to any of the aboves.

I am open to hear others' opinion, while holding my own as the following:

From a medical point of view, virginity is not in existence from the moment you

think of sex in your brain. Who among us dare to say that he or she has never had fantasies on this?

So virginity is now left at an awkward position: To keep or not to keep? ---Now

we are discussing under nonmedical premise I suppose. Cos there is probably no one who can qualify the medical definition of virgin in their 20s.

The tendency in both Korea and Japan has been noticed: Women are willing to spend their "first night" with someone they do not love. While this phenomenon is strange in us bystanders eyes, their explanation may be even more strange: It is because they do not get happiness but pain the first time, which makes them give

it to someone they do not have affection with. So this can be called a "pain-getting-rid-of process".

Sure the technology today has advanced enough to prevent them from pregnancy in

the above cases, and if they are cautious enough and armed with some medical knowledge, they should not be easily trapped in STD (sex transmitted diseases) either.

What I am hoping to highlight here is the meaning of virginity in sense of psychology. It is more than certain that there are people who insist love and sex are two different matters, and so are love and marriage. But personally I so much

would like to experience the blended happiness of them all. All of them should be mixed into one, named marriage for me. And if not, I'd choose not to experience it, no matter how old I am.

I am more than grateful that my educational experience has prepared me for an independent life, in which there is no necessity for a marriage to seek financial

security. Under this premise, the freedom to choose a kid of life is guaranteed.

Sex should be easy, with the rate among college student 30% or higher who has had it unwed.

Sex is hard, with it unproperly had, chances of STD, AIDS, and other transmitted

dieases are brought together. And above all, the most profound impact, named the psychological impact on one's whole life time. I only hope everyone of those who takes it for fun could have a chance to go into marriage consultation medical

center and intern there for a while, then they can see how many out of the crowds are now paying heavy price for the mend of psychological impact resulted from

an unproper sex life before their marriage, and what price they are now paying

for the indefference they have towards their current spouse. It could be removed

, though, given the medical progress. But this should never be expected to be easy and why bother to pay the price while it is not necessary?

Sex is also divine. It brings two souls even closer than expected. And although

I have not experieced this, I hold it to be self-evident. (No one has to kill another to know killing is illegal:))

Conservative? Maybe in a way I am. So what do you think?

 
 
 
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