The most evident difference lies in the change in my dear paretns. Dad and Mom have been much more relThe last holiday in my university education is here and now. And I have found if so much different from the precious ones during the past
seven years.
The most noticeable on has been in the facial expression of my paretns. They are
now much relieved since the settlement of my job upon graduation, since it is a
relative satisfactory one, completely fit for my potential and in a really nice
city. As Mom put it, "We can now enjoy a free life". I know it was referring to
the financial freedom. Despite the fact that all three of us have been working
hard to support the family, it had never been easy for us to go through all these seven years.
The second one is the feeling of growing up on my own side. I now feel like I am
a adult instead of a child after the job-hunting journey within China.I did encounter different people and have been learning to cope with emergency, alone and
in completely strange environments. I know I am still far from being perfect, but the sense of self-fulfillment is quite good and I am now taking a more rational look at life.
This, however, interestingly leads to the third difference,mainly manifested in
the subtle changes between my dear parents and me.I now do not take offense in jokingly-made words from mom any more and am taking more mature effort in handling our relation.
:)A case in point would be the nap at noon. Mom used to get rid of the noon nap
cos "It is too cold to sleep at noon". But since the blood pressure of hers is not as ideal as expected, and a nap at noon is of great help to non-medical treatment of that, I have been coaxing her to take a nap with me at noon.
It is much pain-taking however.
No. 1 Mom is too industrious. It seems taht it is something strange of her to rest enough. Instead, she never stops, cooking, washing, cleaning and sewing.
No. 2 Mom is naughty and insites on her own way. I completely understand she has
the right to decide on her life. But what can prevent a loving medical daughter
from helping shape good habits of her mom, healthwise?
So here comes my tricks:
First of all, get all the housework done after lunch and leave her no space for
further laboring.
Secondly, use the electric heater to warm the bed before I invite her to take a
nap.
Thirdly,Coax her into sleep by explaing the benefits such a nap may bring about,
to her blood pressure, to her spine, to name just a few. Remember? I used to be
honored in hospital by colleges and patients for my great ability to explain professional knowledge by using common language and making believe? Mom is much more easier to deal with than a stranger of course.
So now I am feeling the very sense of parents cos sometimes I do feel myself the
mom of my dear mom and she is, just, the naughty daughter.
But the outcome is pretty rewarding, as the blood pressure lowered steadily, the
lumbar pain greatly relieved by both my application of acupuncture and coaxing
of a noon nap, and the wrinkles less due to help at housework.
Love between family members perhaps is right to be so, when there is no one definitely playing the role of parents and no one the role of kids:)