Four months ago, i finally succeeded in persuading my parents to come to Shanghai, living with us.I've thought life could be better than before, because i could take good care of my parents,and they did not need to worry about me any more.I did not know i was quite wrong until they returned to my hometown one by one.The only reason is they can not get used to the city life.
Actually, my husband has been against this pick-up plan .Not because they are not his own parents, but because he foresaw something which turned to be quite
right later.
I am the only daughter of my parents.Since i was in high school, i began to
live in the school indepently.So plus 4 years of university time and 4 years of
working life, i should have left my parents for 11 years. Although i spent most
of my vocation time with them, we can not stay together for long(not in the same
city).Everytime ,when i went back home, i found they were a little bit older,as
the only daughter, i asked myself millions of times, what could i do to repay them? If God could help me save their youth, i would like to devote my rest life
to them.
There are 1.7 billions people in china now, we everyone has to struggle for life.We were forced to study and work in large cities,to make a better life.Parents just hope their children can make forturn,so they let them fly .When children
really have a stable wealthy life, they found their parents are too old to enjoy life .This is different from Westen countries. It is said children in Westen countries are independent at the age of 18, that means they need not get money from their parents to survive life.And then the children,the parents will live individually. This must be at the basis of good warefare of the government, The old
may need little economic help from their children. Things are different in china.The old needs care and money from their children.If the children live with their parents in a small town, they will live a quiet but not wealthy life.They may
never know what is milk, and never know they have to keep fit by sports and nutritious food. But if the children make fortune in big cities, they are wealthy enough to provide a wonderful life for their parents. The problem is their parents can not easily adjust themselves to the city life. There is no communication with neighbours, no fresh vegetables like in the yard of hometown,the streets are
crowded by people,noisy everywhere.Everything was different from their past life, how can they get used to it?
Besides, there is another key point.When children are well educated outside,
their parents just stay in the closed village, most of them still keep their old ideas.Once they live together, how can they understand each other?It is really
hard to get well along , although both side love each other deeply.During the 3
months my parents staying with us, we almost debated everyday, which really upset both of the side.Until one day, they told me they wanted to go back to my hometown, they can not forget wonderful life there, the missed neighbours badly.They may be very disappointed with me,this is the forever pain in my heart......
Now, we both seem to enjoy our own life, i visit them when i am on vocation,
they treat me just like a faraway guest.Although it is a little bit cold, it is
much better than quarreling all the day.
However, there are still many problems which make me feel guilty.For example
, my dad fell over himself onto the ground from the bicycle several day ago, because of his high blood pressure, he had been carotic for nearly 1 week.After i asked for leaves,i could have chance to stay with him.Dad kept moaning , so mom could not sleep all the night,mom herself is a diabetic,i stayed there,did not know what to do.I just kept asking the doctor, when and how to release his pain.Actually except watching them suffered, nothing i can do.I tried not to cry before
them,but mom saw my tears.She hug me tightly,told me we need to be more strong,
life will continue. And she asked me to go back to my work as soon as possible,
because i should have my own wonderful life.Mom is so considerate and unselfish
... Then next day, before my leaving for my city,i gave her some money,begging them to live happily, i am forever their lovely daughter, i am forever the only one they can rely .But mom refused my money...
We will live as parents sooner or later, we will know what the children appeared in parents' eyes someday. And now,as the child to my parents, i don't know
how to love them at all.I should meditate on this from now on...
