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基本信息
·出版社：Pocket Books
·页码：291 页码
·出版日：2001年
·ISBN：0671036637
·条码：9780671036638
·版次：2001-06-01
·装帧：平装
·开本：32开 32开
内容简介
Publisher Comments:
As a member of Oprah Winfrey's "Change Your Life " team, Mark Bryan gained a national reputation for doing what he does best — bringing families together. Here, he helps all of us achieve deeper intimacy with our loved ones by cracking the codes of love with a four-step process of self-exploration that teaches you to:
1.Remember: use your senses to awaken pleasant memories of your family.
2.Reflect: set pain aside and challenge the story of your life as you remember it.
3.Re-frame: see the whole picture, including events, legacies, and traits that unite your family.
4.Reconnect:become authentically engaged in familial relationships.
Synopsis:
A member of Oprah's renowned "Change Your Life" team helps readers heal theirfamily relationships by cracking the "Codes of Love".
From Publishers Weekly
Aiming at John Bradshaw's audience of adults seeking to reconcile relationships with their original families, Bryan's self-help program draws on sophisticated psychological and spiritual concepts and the work of such thinkers as Murray Bowen and James Hillman. Bryan (The Prodigal Father; coauthor of The Artist's Way at Work) believes that individuals can enhance present relationships and self-understanding by viewing family dynamics from a mature perspective, which he calls "changing the past." He teaches that understanding and forgiveness lie in reframing difficult experiences (short of real abuse) as sources of growth and strength. Offering numerous exercises to spur the process, he urges readers to map their family's "story line," to examine "codes" of communication and behavior and to fathom the motivations of other family members. (His useful checklist for going home for the holidays is bound to attract media attention.) Personal stories enliven the text, but none are as affecting as that of the author's own estrangement from his rural West Virginia family. Recalling a time in his 20s when he was desperate for money and his father refused to help, Bryan reframes the experience as a character-building lesson about resourcefulness and self-reliance. His approach is intelligent and compassionate, although his seriousness and the intensive process he espouses may overwhelm the general self-help reader. Agent, David Vigliano.
From Library Journal
This book is not another empty self-help book but a workbook for studious, quiet thought and analysis. Bryan (The Prodigal Father) draws on his personal struggles in his efforts to create a self-guided program of reflections for the reader. The director of the Father Project in Los Angeles and the product of a troubled family, Bryan offers a lot of insight into family conflict. "All those years I had been estranged," he muses, "my father and I had been speaking different languages but trying to say the same thing." He suggests four basic steps to help you see your way home: "Remember, Reflect, Re-frame, and Reconnect." Although these ideas have been espoused countless times in self-help literature, Bryan's thoughtful exercises and writing put a new spin on reframing relationships. Trying to answer the in-depth questions in the introduction alone could take a weekend of solitary reflection. For large public, academic, and specialized collections.
---Susan E. Burdick, MLS, Reading, PA
Book Dimenion
Height (mm) 209 Width (mm) 135
目录
Preface:Coming Home
Introduction:A Brand-new Past
1 From Tragedy to Comedy
2 Remember
3 Reflect
4 Re-frame
5 Reconnect
6 Codes of Love
7 Falling in love with Your Family
8 Friends,Lovers,and the World at Large
Epilogue:Why We Do This Work
AppendixⅠ：Going Home for the Holidays A Checklist
AppendisⅡ:The Codes of Love Rules of Engagement
AppendixⅢ:Teaching and Traveling with Codes of Love:A Guide fo Starting Study Groups
Bibliography
Index
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