the opposite is the case in india, where the friend's role is to "sense" a person's need and do something about it. the idea of reciprocity as we know it it unheard of. an american in india will have difficulty if he attempts to follow american friendship patterns. he gains nothing by extending himself in behalf of others, least of all gratitude, because the indian assumes that what he does for others he does for the good of his own psyche. he will find it impossible to make friends quickly and is unlikely to allow sufficient time for friendships to ripen. he will also note that as he gets to know people better, they may become more critical of him, a fact that he finds hard to take. what he does not know is that one sign of friendship in india is speaking one's mind.
參考答案:这在印度是相反的,那里的朋友的角色是种"感觉"对于一个人的需要,并且为这做些什么.我们所理解的互惠是听说不到的.一个在印度生活的美国人会有困难,如果他试图延续美国人交朋友的方法.他如果以为自己可以代表他人的话,他也许会一无所获,但至少会赢得感恩之心.因为印度人相信如果一个人为别人做事,他是用自己的真心去把事情做好.他会发现,很快的交到好朋友是不可能的,也不可能有时间允许友谊发展下去.他也会发现随着他对别人的了解更多,他们会对他的批评更多,事实上他回发现他很难得到这些.他所不知道的是在印度友谊的标志是用心去说话,去交流.
